Posted by Jane | Posted on 02-04-2013
Bully is such an evocative word. The consequences of bullying are indeed far reaching and in some cases tragic in the extreme. I am horrified by the extent of vitriol displayed in forums and social media comments.
Supposedly we have plans and processes in schools to protect our young and deal with the spectre of bullying that children face, I am not convinced that they work.
To completely contradict those policies we only have to switch on our TV’s and witness bullying of every kind, its called ‘reality television’, Bully yourself slim, bully others to cook the best meal, bully everyone to build the best house. Lie, cheat, connive, demean, backbite, bitch, you name it nastiness rules, all for your 15 minutes of fame. Its awful, I refuse to watch any reality TV, yet I am still involved due to the never ending adverts for the program itself. They are bad enough, nothing could induce me to see the program in its entirety.
What is wrong with us? Why are we perpetuating this huge double standard? We tell our kids that bullying is wrong yet tune into programs that glorify it? Is it any wonder our children are confused and disengaged?
The Bully archetype is one that must learn to set healthy boundaries for themselves and others around them. This is often a lifetime lesson, learned the hard way. A bully has high standards and when they don’t meet their own standard they get tough on themselves and on anyone around them, not pleasant to be around. However a healthy Bully archetype is one who knows where the line in the sand is, who put it there and why and RESPECTS it. There’s an old fashioned word – respect!
Bullies occur in all walks of life, school, work, relationships. How good would it be to recognise one sooner and take the appropriate action to avoid confrontation? If you feel you could have the Bully as one of your own unique archetypes wouldn’t you want to learn more about it and have it work in your favour instead of against you? Maybe its time to contact me for more information?